21 Things I Learned Being a Stay-at-Home Dad
I don't know how to best say this, so I'm just going to blurt it out. If you have never seen, or had, a pelvic exam, let me tell you something -- it's not how you imagine it.
If you were just thinking that what this Father's Day really needs is an Internet post full of life lessons from a stay-at-home dad who wrote a book (that won a literary parenting award), boy, did you click on the right link. If that's not what you were thinking, I'd read this anyway because not only do I say vagina about halfway down the page, but also there's some meaningful stuff on this list. Let's face it, who would you rather take advice from, an award-winning author who says "vagina" or those stuffy expert types? Happy Father's Day!
21 Things I Learned Being a Stay At Home Dad for the Last 14 Years.
- Plainly, sorting the laundry, folding the laundry and putting away the laundry is the scourge of my existence.
- I'd always wanted to have children, but I was unprepared for how the news that I would soon be a father would affect me. I immediately began to imagine all the things that I would need to do and instantly felt the pressure of another person's life depending on me.
- Putting a baby in your wife's belly gets you an invitation to her OB/GYN appointments.
- I don't know how to best say this, so I'm just going to blurt it out. If you have never seen, or had, a pelvic exam, let me tell you something -- it's not how you imagine it.
- When your wife (or really any woman) asks for your opinion about baby accessories, she is just being polite. I may be overgeneralizing, but they don't care, even a little bit, what you think. And, to be honest, it's probably better that way.
- I didn't initially expect that I would become more emotional than I already was, but this job will change you.
- Don't eat Doritos before you coach your wife through childbirth and definitely don't forget to have your mother leave the room when the baby arrives... my wife is still annoyed that my mom saw her vagina.
- Once you've feel it, you'll never forget how warm and thick baby vomit is.
- You can drop a baby without hurting them -- if you get a lucky bounce.
- Everyone should watch a lion eat with their 2-year-old.
- Dangerous elements aside, don't try and control which experiences get to be part of the recipe that creates who your children will be one day.
- Endless decisions are made and carried out by our moms in homes all around the world. Each step holds the hope of survival, growth and prosperity, but as important and plentiful as these women and their work are, it goes unseen by most.
- You can't bank sleep, so enjoy it when you can.
- There is no such thing as gender specific tasks.
- When my children become adults and find themselves reflecting on our time together, I want the feeling to endure more than the words themselves. Like the difference between being told that you are loved and the feeling of being hugged by a person who loves you. I want them to feel my hug wrapping around them... always.
- Most guys wish that they had a closer relationship with their fathers. Break that cycle.
- Life really is about the pauses in between the moments.
- Being told that your child will require an infusion of man-made insulin multiple times throughout the day and night to stay alive is devastating.
- Don't stop and don't give up.
- I was estranged from my father for most of my life and only reconnected with him in his last few years... I wish we had found each other again much sooner.
- If you open your heart, your family will fill it with a glorious feeling that transcends description.
Excerpted (blurbed really) from LIFE IS SHORT, LAUNDRY IS ETERNAL by Scott Benner. Copyright © 2013 by Scott Benner. Excerpted with permission by Spry Publishing LLC.
Radio Interview with NPR Philadelphia
Blurb from the WHYY, NPR Philadelphia Website
The forecast looks favorable for Father's Day weekend, and whether you're the designated driver, griller, or just plain chiller with family and friends, you're hopefully not in the same boat as Scott Benner, tasked with the endless job of doing laundry — or so he claims in his ode to fatherhood, "Life is Short, Laundry is Eternal: Confessions of a Stay-at-Home Dad." He spoke with NewsWorks Tonight Host Dave Heller.
Being invited to do this interview was a huge honor! I couldn't believe Dave Heller read my book!
The interview can also be found on the WHYY website.
Video: My Interview with Katie Couric
This was, without a doubt, one of the highlights of my year.
I had the chance to sit down last week with Katie Couric at the ABC News studio in Manhattan. We talked about life as a stay-at-home dad, my new book, 'Life Is Short, Laundry Is Eternal' and how I feel about family. The interview is live now on Yahoo News. I genuinely would appreciate if you could check out the video and share the link while you're there. Thank you so much!
There is no way for me to convey how fantastically down to earth and amazing Katie was. Our private conversations, both before and after the interview, were truly something that I will never forget.
Please know how grateful I am for the consistently jaw dropping support that I feel coming from all of you as this crazy year continues forward. From the personal messages, to the amazing book reviews that you leave online, a person could not possibly be more touched and humbled than I am today. - Best, Scott
My Diabetes Mine guest post
A big thank you to Mike Hoskins and Diabetes Mine for featuring me today on the site for Father's Day! In addition to some nice words from Mike about my book you'll find a guest post from me titled, "The Outcome Is Not Important" and a giveaway.
I hope you get a chance to surf over and check it out... Diabetes Mine is one of the great sites and Mike's writing is top shelf - spend some time there (after you read my bit).