#1436 Life Coach: Doesn't Remember to Bolus
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12 year old Kyler tries to figure out why he doesn't remember to bolus.
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Scott Benner 0:00
Welcome back, friends. You are listening to the Juicebox Podcast.
Kyler is 12 years old. He has type one diabetes. His mom brought him on the podcast because he has trouble remembering to Bolus for his food sometimes. And so Kyler and I have a conversation, and we come up with a plan, and this is that nothing you hear on the Juicebox Podcast should be considered advice medical or otherwise, always consult a physician before making any changes to your healthcare plan. I know this is gonna sound crazy, but blue circle health is a non profit that's offering a totally free virtual type one diabetes clinical care, education and support program for adults 18 and up. You heard me right, free. No strings attached, just free. Currently, if you live in Florida, Maine, Vermont, Ohio, Delaware, Alabama or Missouri, you're eligible for blue circle health right now, but they are adding states quickly in 2025 so make sure to follow them at Blue circle health on social media and make yourself familiar with blue circle health.org. Blue circle health is free. It is without cost. There are no strings attached. I am not hiding anything from you. Blue circle health.org, you know why they had to buy an ad no one believes it's free. The episode you're about to enjoy was brought to you by Dexcom, the Dexcom g7 the same CGM that my daughter wears. You can learn more and get started today at my link, dexcom.com/juice, box. Today's podcast is sponsored by the insulin pump that my daughter has been wearing since she was four years old. Omnipod. Omnipod.com/juice box. You too can have the same insulin pump that my daughter has been wearing every day for 16 years. Hey,
Kyler 2:00
my name is Kyler Davis. I'm 12 years old, playing baseball.
Scott Benner 2:05
Kyler, how old were you when you got type one, five years old, five. So seven years ago? 910, yeah. Okay, so you were five. Do you have any brothers or sisters? Yeah, I have a eight year old brother. Does he have diabetes? He does not. No, does anybody else in your family?
Speaker 1 2:23
No, I'm the first one in the family to get the type one. Gotcha,
Scott Benner 2:27
that's not exciting, huh? No, no. How to make you feel like, when do you remember that time? Or do you not remember it really?
Speaker 1 2:36
I mean, I like vacantly remember it. What are your recollections it was kind of scary. Mean, I didn't really know what was happening to five years old.
Scott Benner 2:50
What about now? How is it different now?
Speaker 1 2:53
Oh, I'm just really used to it now, because I've had it for seven years.
Scott Benner 2:57
So you don't think about it the same way. You're not scared by it. No, no no. Does it make you feel different at all, or not in a way that bothers you? It doesn't really bother me. Okay, you have any problems with kids, anybody? Give you crap about it.
Speaker 1 3:11
I mean, my friends like we joke about it, but I don't really care.
Scott Benner 3:15
Is it joking in a way that you feel like you're in on, or do you feel like they're making in on? Yeah, not like they're making fun of you and you have to have to go along with it, or something like that. Okay, yeah, awesome. You have a good group of friends. Yeah, I have a great group of friends. Awesome. Awesome. How long you've been playing baseball since I was probably four or five? No kidding. What position do you play? Second base and outfield. Second base in outfield? Are you lefty? Righty, righty, right handed. Do you love it? Oh, yeah, I love baseball. Yeah, you gotta love baseball. It's a lot of work, yeah, a lot of hours out in the sun and the heat and batting cages in the winter time and all that stuff. Tell me about it. Yeah, my son played all through college. Wow, yeah, it's cool. It's over now. He's like, 24 but gosh, my son started playing baseball. He hadn't quite turned four years old yet, and he was in this little T ball League, and he played that for a year, and then he played little league well now. Then he played at the YMCA for another year, and then he went to, like, our town's little league when he was six, yeah. And he played there from 678-910-1112, then Little League ended at 12, and then they played a ton of travel ball, and played for his middle school, and has played for his high school. And then he went on and played in college, and I've spent a lot of time on a baseball field, so yeah, you definitely have to love it. Do you think you think you love it enough to keep playing? Oh, yeah, yeah. I don't know how to ask this. Are you a big kid? Not really. No, no, you're pretty average size. Do you think Asia, Yeah, mom or dad, tall? Do you have any hope of being tall?
Unknown Speaker 4:51
No, my parents are really short.
Scott Benner 4:55
It's their fault, then Kyler, not yours. So yeah, you're gonna try to keep playing for your school. Yeah,
Speaker 1 5:00
yeah, my middle school doesn't have a team right now. Oh, we have fields, but they're for the high school. So
Scott Benner 5:06
what are you going to do for
Speaker 1 5:08
baseball? I'm playing on a travel ball team right now. That's awesome.
Scott Benner 5:12
You guys like play in the spring and the fall? Yeah, that's great. That's good. That's good baseball, all right. Well, that's that's awesome. How do you find your blood sugars during games? I
Speaker 1 5:23
usually just check it when I'm like, the dugout, batting or on bench.
Scott Benner 5:28
Yeah. Do you have problems with lows while you're playing or highs? Or do you usually do you have, like, a system where you stay pretty level
Speaker 1 5:35
when I go low, my mom usually just brings me a snack in the dugout.
Scott Benner 5:40
Yeah. Have you ever felt low, like, while you're out on the field?
Unknown Speaker 5:43
No, not really,
Scott Benner 5:44
actually. Okay, that's good. What's the gear you use for your diabetes? You have a CGM or a pump or anything like that, yeah,
Speaker 1 5:50
pump and a CGM. What do you use? Omnipod five and the Dexcom six?
Scott Benner 5:57
So it's algorithm. It's taking care of, like, some of your decisions for you, yeah, yeah. What did you have before that? Before Omnipod five? I think I started with it, yeah, I started with it. Omnipod five was your first pump. So what have you had, like, two years, maybe, yeah, okay, all right. How did you like that over injections? Oh,
Speaker 1 6:16
it's so much better. Okay, how come guys, you don't have to stab yourself every day. Pretty much, staying
Scott Benner 6:23
away from the stabby part is the good part. I hear you so your mom reached out. Why? Like? Why? Because she she sent me a note pretty quickly. I think I said I was looking for people to be on episodes about, like, I don't understand, like, something they don't understand. And I think she said, Did she tell you what she told me? No, I have no idea what she said. Is she right there? Yeah, ask her. What did what did she say to me? What'd you say?
Unknown Speaker 6:51
Oh, she understands why I dose when I eat. She
Scott Benner 6:53
doesn't understand why you dose, why you eat. Okay, all right, okay, so, all right. So, Kylie, do you think that's a fair statement. Do you not give yourself insulin every time you eat? Yeah, okay, that's pretty honest. Do you have any idea why you don't? It's hard to keep track of every day you eat. Number times a day, what happens you like, you get hungry, and then, like, walk me through it a little
Speaker 1 7:19
bit. I get hungry, I'll grab the snack then, like, I just eat it without dosing. Yeah? Because
Scott Benner 7:27
you're not thinking about it. Or do you? Yeah? Do you ever ignore it on purpose? No, you've never once grabbed food and thought, I know I should be giving myself insulin, but screw it. I'm not doing that maybe once, but not that that's not a frequent thought that's in your head. No. So what do you think happens? Do you think it's just you're just busy living and it just doesn't occur to you? Yeah. What happens then, if you don't give yourself insulin? Like, who figures out that you didn't do it? How does that work itself out? My dad. But how like? How is he like? He doesn't just magically, I mean, is he does he look across the room at you and be like, Kyler is eating. I see he's eating. He's definitely not giving himself insulin. Kyler give yourself insulin. Or is it a thing where your blood sugar goes up and then people are aware of it?
Speaker 1 8:16
My blood sugar goes up, okay? And
Scott Benner 8:19
then how high does it go up before somebody notices? Do you know, probably 250 How do you feel when your blood sugar is that high? Today's episode of The Juicebox Podcast is sponsored by Omnipod. And before I tell you about Omnipod, the device, I'd like to tell you about Omnipod, the company. I approached Omnipod in 2015 and ask them to buy an ad on a podcast that I hadn't even begun to make yet because the podcast didn't have any listeners, all I could promise them was that I was going to try to help people living with type one diabetes, and that was enough for Omnipod. They bought their first ad, and I used that money to support myself while I was growing the Juicebox Podcast. You might even say that Omnipod is the firm foundation of the Juicebox Podcast, and it's actually the firm foundation of how my daughter manages her type one diabetes every day. Omnipod.com/juicebox whether you want the Omnipod five or the Omnipod dash. Using my link, let's Omnipod know what a good decision they made in 2015 and continue to make to this day. Omnipod is easy to use, easy to fill, easy to wear. And I know that because my daughter has been wearing one every day since she was four years old, and she will be 20 this year, there is not enough time in an ad for me to tell you everything that I know about Omnipod, but please take a look omnipod.com/juicebox I think Omnipod could be a good friend to you, just like it has been to my daughter and my family. You can manage diabetes, confident. With the powerfully simple Dexcom g7 dexcom.com/juicebox the Dexcom g7 is the CGM that my daughter is wearing. The g7 is a simple CGM system that delivers real time glucose numbers to your smartphone or smart watch. The g7 is made for all types of diabetes, type one and type two, but also people experiencing gestational diabetes, the Dexcom g7 can help you spend more time in range, which is proven to lower a 1c The more time you spend in range, the better and healthier you feel. And with the Dexcom clarity app, you can track your glucose trends. And the app will also provide you with a projected a 1c in as little as two weeks. If you're looking for clarity around your diabetes, you're looking for Dexcom. Dexcom.com/juice box. When you use my link, you're supporting the podcast. Dexcom.com/juice box. Head over there. Now I get hot. Hot, like, sweaty, yeah, okay. And then what happens? Like, your parents come up to you and they're like, Hey, you didn't like, do they give you crap about it? Or are they pretty cool? How do they handle it? Yeah, they give me crap. Has it ever occurred to you to be like, I should just probably give myself insulin, and then none of this would happen. Yeah, tell me why that doesn't happen?
Unknown Speaker 11:23
Probably because,
Scott Benner 11:25
take your time. I'm being serious. Take your time and think about it, because you very well might not know, but I'm looking for your opinion, like, how come you can't make that change? I'm like, tired of doing it. Ah, okay. It's been too much, too long. Yeah. Okay, so I know you're just, I don't mean to say you're only 12, but 12 is pretty young. And, you know, diabetes is a, certainly a big responsibility, and you've already been living with it for seven years, you've come to the conclusion, I imagine, this is going to be for the rest of your life. Do you feel like that? Yes. Okay. And are you aware of why it's important to not manage your meals the way you are right now? Like how much of the health part of diabetes Do you understand?
Unknown Speaker 12:14
Probably 75 80%
Scott Benner 12:17
if I said to you, Kyler, we don't want your blood sugars to be 250 every time you eat. Do you know why we don't want that?
Speaker 1 12:24
Yeah, because then it will jack up my immune system.
Scott Benner 12:29
Well, there's more to it. So your blood sugar bouncing around like that, going high and then coming back down. Does it get low after you you fix the high blood sugar? Sometimes, sometimes, yeah, yeah, right. Then you got to eat food. You don't want to bring it back up again, like that. Bouncing is just generally speaking, not good for your body. And higher blood sugars are, you know, like, I know you can go to a 250 blood sugar, and it's not, you know, it's not like something horrible. You don't have to run to the hospital, right? But that, over and over again is slowly doing, you know, damage to your health. And so while you're sitting there, probably thinking, like, I don't what the big deal is, the thing beeped, I gave myself insulin, like it's over now, like your parents are thinking about, like, long term. They're thinking about stuff you can't even, like, imagine yet. Like, do you know how old your parents are? They're probably really old. Do you know how old they are? Yeah, they're like, 50 and 60. Oh, my God, they're almost dead. It's crazy. What they do have? What do you like, the last of 17 kids? Or something? Kyler, what happened there would your parents start having kids later in life? I'm just joking. Oh, they're not that old. Oh, okay,
Unknown Speaker 13:43
my mom made me tell you that I'm joking.
Scott Benner 13:45
How old are they? You know, 43
Unknown Speaker 13:48
and my mom's 39 it's
Scott Benner 13:51
still pretty old they, I mean, they probably, like, get up off the couch and they're, like, creaky, right? And they don't move too fast, yeah, no, no, it's almost over. I barely ever seen my mom get off the couch, yo. She just lives there. Yeah, yeah. She's not out walking, going for a run, anything like that.
Speaker 1 14:07
I've never seen her do that. Once in my life. Does
Scott Benner 14:10
she sit at all your games? Oh, yeah, she sits down. Kyler, you're awesome. Okay, so your parents are thinking long term, right? They've been alive 40 years. They have perspective on life you don't have yet. You won't have it for a long time, right? Like it's hard for a young person to worry about the future, to consider the future, even, because in your world, life's only been 12 years old, 12 years long so far. So they are really thoughtfully trying to set you up to be healthy for a very long time. They also probably want you to have good habits so that when you're older, and maybe, you know, maybe you're on like a, I don't know, maybe your travel team goes away to Florida to play, or something like that for a week, or maybe you end up at college or something that you know how to take care of your health. Yeah. And like I would imagine, I've got a daughter who's 20 years old, who's had diabetes since she was two. And, I mean, that's still my goal is, is to help her understand the things that she's going to need to know to be healthy forever. Now, day to day, that's hard to keep in mind while people are, you know, it feels like they're bugging you about stuff. I think your bigger concern probably is trying to figure out how to not feel like you're sick of it like I think the goal you should have is try to is, how do you like fold diabetes into your day to day life, so that it doesn't feel like a chore while you're doing the things that are are important for you. You know what I mean? Yeah, you know what I mean? Like, good, yeah, good. What are you gonna say?
Speaker 1 15:50
It's just like, you just gotta fit it in, yeah? Like you have all these things going on and then just gonna squeeze it in, like it's priority number one, but
Scott Benner 16:00
the trick is to not feel like it's extra like. So I think, you know, if I told you you were gonna go cross the street today, like you wouldn't think like looking left, right, left was like a burden, you'd say that's an obvious thing I need to do so that I can get across the street safely, like you wouldn't just I couldn't take you to the curb and just say, hey, Kyler, shut your eyes and run for it like you wouldn't do that. You'd be like, No, I don't want to get hit by a car. I'm not interested in that. But I think that the idea of not bolusing for your meals very consistently, it does to your parents, feel like you're shutting your eyes and running across the street, that makes sense? Yeah, yeah. So now, how do you like now it's not the answer. We don't want you to feel bad about it. We don't want you to feel overwhelmed about it. Like, that's not the goal, like nobody's trying to make you feel bad. How do you make the decision that Bolus thing for food is brushing your teeth is looking both ways, like, how do we turn it into a thing that just happens without you having to feel like it's a burden or an extra thing you're doing? Do you think that's possible? Yeah, how would you go about it? Do you think like if you had to set a plan up for you to feel better about that? I mean, what would that look like to you?
Speaker 1 17:22
Like, set and be certain times to eat and then no Bolus right before them. So
Scott Benner 17:30
if you had set meal times, you think it would help you to, like, make sure your your insulin was in. Well, I've seen people put notes on the refrigerator that just say Pre Bolus, like stuff like that, like little reminders. Because, Kyler, listen, you don't know me, you know what I mean. But I'm, like, childish in my mind still and like, I understand, I understand that you get busy. You're thinking about things you know you're not interested in, like this just sucks. Like I've I've interviewed adults from, you know, 20, 3040, 5060, years old. They all have type one diabetes, and that they almost all agree that Pre Bolus in their meals sucks, that having to remember to give yourself insulin before you eat is not fun, like but they'll also all tell you that it's a really important part of living healthy with diabetes. Now, if I was going to try to talk you into it, what I would say is this, the couple of minutes that it takes to give yourself insulin before you eat saves you so much trouble on the back end, right? It saves a 250 blood sugar. It saves that conversation with your dad. It saves you getting low later, from the from the mistimed insulin that caused the correction. It saves you from having to eat crap you don't want, drinking a juice box you don't want, like. It saves you from all of those things. It just to me, seems worth it to trade that couple of minutes of thought before the meal for all the crap that comes when you don't do it. Like, do you know what I mean? Like, maybe it's important to think about it like that. Like, it's, you're not giving something up. You're actually you're getting a lot back instead. Yeah, 100% Yeah, right. Like, your time and, like, you know? I mean, how many times have you been hanging out with friends or something and like your mom, like has to walk in the room with a juice box or candy? And like you don't, you probably feel like a baby when that happens, right? Yeah, yeah, you're not looking for that. So, like, by taking control of your meals and putting yourself in charge, you're not just avoiding those problems, those potential problems, but you're also giving yourself control, like you're in charge of this going well, instead of just acting like diabetes just happens to me, and you know it's not up to me, like you can make decisions, like you can take control your of your life and make decisions. Questions that give you the ability to write the story about how the rest of your day goes. Does that make sense? Yeah, yeah. What do you like to do for fun, besides baseball, play video games? Which ones Call of Duty? You got the new one with the new zombies? They put the zombies back the way they're supposed to be. I heard Yeah. You like the zombie ones, the the maps are. Now,
Speaker 1 20:24
I'm not a huge fan of the zombies. Do you like scary movies?
Scott Benner 20:28
Yeah? Do Yeah, I don't like scary movies at all. They scare me, I think is probably why. But so you like scary movies, but don't like the zombie maps? No, because the zombies aren't shooting back,
Speaker 1 20:42
no. It's just, I don't really like the, like the setting and the the way it's laid out. I got
Scott Benner 20:47
you, you prefer the more traditional maps, yeah, yeah. Do you get online with friends and talk to them while you're uh while you're playing? Yeah? Do you like use the headphones to gang up on people and, like, make plans and stuff like that? Uh huh, yeah. It's pretty great. Do you do the um, the achievement stuff to like, level up the weapons and the gear and stuff, or do you guys not do that?
Unknown Speaker 21:08
We do it sometimes.
Scott Benner 21:09
Yeah. Which gun do you prefer to use? Probably the Mk, don't tell me your game gamer handle, but do you like it? Yeah, yeah. All right. You don't want people hunting down Call of Duty. Do No, no, no. Okay, so it's not lost on me Kyler, that this is not a conversation that most 12 year olds have to have. You know what? I mean? No, probably not. Yeah. It sucks a little bit, but I will tell you this, I've talked to a lot of people who have type one diabetes who grew up with it, and they will tell you later in life that having type one although they don't want it, and they would obviously get rid of it if they could, but it does teach them to be more mature or thoughtful that oftentimes people with type One diabetes are not so easily shaken by life events, because they know what it is to like live through a tough thing. Do you know what I mean? Like, do you have any of those feelings like, do you see any of the value in diabetes?
Unknown Speaker 22:10
Yeah, it gets me out of class.
Scott Benner 22:14
How does it get you out of class? When
Speaker 1 22:16
my blood goes low, I get called down. I get to miss math class.
Scott Benner 22:20
Yeah. Get shot. Do you not like math? Oh no. What subjects do you like reading? Do you enjoy fiction? Non fiction? What kind of reading Do you like non fiction? So like sci fi, not really
Unknown Speaker 22:34
like history, history?
Scott Benner 22:36
Oh no kidding, like historical stories or actual like, just this is what happened in the past. Like, this is like both kind of, what are some of your favorite historical events World War Two? What about it? What do you like about about learning about it? I like learning about the Nazis and what they were doing.
Unknown Speaker 23:02
Yeah, I'm not a fan of the trust.
Scott Benner 23:05
I believe you. So what about that? Like, is it hard for you to believe that, that a group of people would were being that horrible? Yeah, weird, isn't it? So you're trying to get a feeling for like, what, like, how, how that could happen? Yeah. Do you find yourself to be a kind person in your regular life? Yeah? Yeah. Do you have trouble with people who aren't kind?
Speaker 1 23:33
Yeah, I deal with them how so kind of talk some sense into them. You
Scott Benner 23:40
find yourself kind of trying to be a voice of reason for people when they're they're being maybe unkind.
Unknown Speaker 23:47
Yeah, I take charge.
Scott Benner 23:49
Does that work? Do you have you had luck talking people into, uh, into maybe acting better? Yeah, I have no kidding. Can you share one of those experiences with me? I mean,
Speaker 1 24:00
they're like, I'm in Boy Scouts, and they're these, ton of their kids, they're always yelling at each other, and one of the scout leaders told me I had to take charge, like, so I just stepped in. They all kind of like, shut down. Yeah.
Scott Benner 24:17
What did you offer to them? What advice did you give them in that moment?
Speaker 1 24:21
I was like, You're not going to get anywhere with just yelling at each other.
Scott Benner 24:25
Did they do it a different way, or did they just kind of shut off and stop? They kind of just shut off and stop. Yeah, you think they weren't maybe accustomed to being redirected like that? No, yeah. Are you what happens when somebody redirects you? Do you you respond usually, or do you shut off?
Speaker 1 24:43
I do it. I I'm a great listener. Yeah,
Scott Benner 24:48
always been since you were little. Yeah, you like following rules. Like, does it make you? Does it make you uncomfortable to break rules? No, I always follow the rules. You do, except. Are the Pre Bolus in your meals? Yeah, pretty much you change your pumps when you're supposed to. Or do you let them go to the last second and then you're like, Oh, I guess I'll do it. Now, I
Unknown Speaker 25:09
changed my pumps when I'm supposed to.
Scott Benner 25:12
What's your high alarm set out like, when does your CGM beep at you? 250 probably. 250 okay. Do you know what your a 1c is, 7.1 Okay, are you mostly managing it on your own, or your parents still helping? My
Speaker 1 25:26
dad usually helps a lot. Yeah, like I said, my mom just sits on the couch all day,
Scott Benner 25:31
the old couch, lady, like, 60s, five years old, yeah, yeah, yeah. I understand your dad is the one who's a little more involved with your blood sugar. Yeah. Do you know why that is like, Have you guys ever discussed why your dad's the one who helps more than your mom? No, not really. No. Do you like it that way? Or do you wish they were both more involved? I was they were both involved. Do you think your dad understands it better than your mom does? Or do you think, yeah, he does, yeah, how did he learn about it? Did he ever tell you? No,
Speaker 1 26:04
he never. He just, like, after like, a year, he was, like, an expert, yeah,
Scott Benner 26:09
he figured it out. Interesting. Okay, so if you were to go to your mom, like we were in Cub Scout or in Boy Scouts, and tell her that you wanted her to be more involved, like, what would you share with her? Like, why? Why that's important to you? I mean,
Speaker 1 26:24
she's, like, involved pretty much, but I feel like my dad is just, like, a little more involved. So I'd probably say just like, can you get involved, like, a little bit more? Yeah,
Scott Benner 26:35
is she in the room right now? Yeah. Is this uncomfortable?
Speaker 1 26:39
Yeah, yeah, she's yelling at me for saying these things. Is she
Scott Benner 26:43
eyeball on you right now? Yes, giving you the look, that's okay, we're tell her, we're getting to it. Do we gonna figure out? Like, we're gonna figure out how to make a trade off here? So if you'd like her to do something, and she'd like you to do something, right? Yeah, she wants you to, like, Well, I mean, you're here for. Why? Because the Bolus thing, right? She wants you to, like, be more cognizant about bolusing for your meals, and remember to do that stuff. And you'd like her to do something too. So maybe when you guys, like, maybe when you get off here, you guys could have that conversation and just talk about that, like, simple thing, like, look, I think I could be more aware of my Bolus thing for my meals. I wish you could be a little more involved. Like, so let's try to think Kyler, like, how could she be more involved that would help you Bolus at your meals to remind me better, yeah, that's a lot to remember, isn't it? Yeah, yeah. It's overwhelming. Sometimes I imagine, oh, yeah, yeah. So, see, we found this perfect balance. I think this is our answer, if I'm being honest. Like, I think that, like, this is our answer, which is, I think your mom wants you to Pre Bolus, because it would be healthier for you, but also because it would be less turmoil in your house, right? And she also wants to think that you're learning well enough to help yourself as you get older, like I understand all of her desires, I think, and I think that it's possible that after seven years in such a long time of having type one diabetes, that maybe it's easy to forget that you're just 12 and that, yes, you should be involved With your diabetes, and you should understand what's going on, because you need to know for the future, but at the same time, 12 years old, and you could use a hand, right? Yeah, that's pretty much what we're talking about here. So, and it's fun to tease your mom about being old, you know, or whatever. I had fun with that too, or, you know, like the sofa or whatever, you know, but I'm sure she's pretty involved in your life, and you're just looking for this very specific thing from her. So is it fair to say that if for the next month, it became your mom's job to remind you 15 minutes before meals? Yeah, that it was 15 minutes before meals that maybe you could build up a little bit of a memory for that yourself. You think that's reasonable?
Unknown Speaker 29:07
Oh, yeah, yeah, I think that'd be great. And then
Scott Benner 29:10
what about while you're at school? Maybe a text message, yeah, right. This is how I used to do it with my daughter, like I had an alarm set on my phone while she was at school for whenever she had meals, or even, like, gym class or anything that needed, like an adjustment with with insulin, and my alarm would go off, and I'd stop, and I'd send her a text and I'd say, hey, you know, like, it's time to Pre Bolus for lunch. And you know, we would talk about it back and forth, and text for a second, and she'd get her Bolus in for lunch, and that would stop her from getting high at lunch, which was awesome. Or sometimes it would go off, and I would get like, a note, like, hey, like, her gym class is in a half an hour. And I'd say, Arden, let's set like, a Temp Basal decrease so that you don't get low at gym, like that kind of stuff. I
Speaker 1 29:58
have a nurse at my school that I go to for. My lunch, you do? So, yeah,
Scott Benner 30:02
okay, and is that an actual pre bullish, or does she bullish? You and you just go right to the food.
Speaker 1 30:07
It's a Bolus, or it's a Pre Bolus. I go 10 minutes early. Okay,
Scott Benner 30:12
good, good, good. So you, what do you? So what do you really need your mom? You need your mom in the morning and at dinner time, right? Yeah, yeah. And then if you're gonna have a snack, like now, listen, if, if we put her in charge, and you stand up at seven o'clock at night to go to the snack drawer, right, get a pretzel or something like that, and she says, You don't forget to bullish. You can't be mad at her because you asked her to remind you. Yes. All right, so you got to be fair to her too while you're doing it, 100% all right. Does it sound like a plan? Yep. Awesome. You think it'll work? Yeah, good. I'm excited. So now, if you're excited and I'm excited and she's excited, then together, I think we got a plan we do. Do you think I could talk to her for a minute here at the end and go over the plan with her so she knows? Yep, all right. Kyler, will you send me an email in a month and tell me how it's going? Uh, yeah, 100% I'll send you that email. I really appreciate it, man. Good luck at baseball. Have fun. Keep keep having fun while you're playing. It's a great sport. Thank you. Yeah, absolutely. Hand the phone to your mama. Good to talk. All right, see you. Yep. Hello. Hey. How are you? Hi, good. How are you? I'm good. So we came up with a plan. Okay, all right, I know you didn't expect to be on but do you want to introduce yourself real quick, or now that you're the old couch lady, would you prefer not to?
Speaker 2 31:31
Just to clarify, my name is Mary. I'm Tyler's mom, and I I'm actually a teacher, so I do not sit on the couch all day.
Scott Benner 31:41
You're not 65 and on the sofa constantly.
Speaker 3 31:43
No, no, I'm teaching. I
Scott Benner 31:47
think he was being sarcastic at points. He was very funny.
Speaker 2 31:49
Yes, he is a little sarcastic. I apologize for that. Don't apologize. It
Scott Benner 31:54
was awesome. So what we talked about was, and I know you were hearing one side of it, but it sounds like so just between you and I and everyone listening, and Kyler, if he ever listens to this too, what I'm hearing is, is that he needs help, yes, and he wishes it would come from you. Yeah, that's what I'm getting. So he doesn't think you're not involved, but he thinks his dad's more involved with diabetes. And what I heard was, and listen, I could be 100% wrong, but I've spoken to a lot of people, what I heard was, he's just 12 years old, and this is a lot, and yeah, he should remember to Bolus his meals, but he's not, and he needs somebody to help him. So I said, Well, your mom wants you to make this, you know, this change to make these and I explained to him why, like, all the health reasons why, and that you're worried about him later when he goes away to college or gets a job or something like that. You know that it's about health and his safety and happiness and all that stuff. Like, I stuck up for all the old couch ladies out there and but at the same time, like, he also has a deeper voice, and he's got a little bravado about him, and I could see how you could read him as older than he is, maybe, and then you give him the diabetes, and he's had it for so long, and it doesn't seem like that big of a deal to Pre Bolus, but Mary, I've talked to a lot of people with type one, and they all describe that remembering to Bolus for their meals is really difficult that you just get caught up living and you don't think about it. So what we said was, is that he could commit to doing it, if you could commit to reminding him, I think he's looking for you 15 minutes before a meal, to tell him, Hey, we're getting ready to have breakfast. We're getting ready to have dinner. It's time to Bolus to be a little involved in that for a month, like so like, for the next 30 days, if you guys do it together, to see if it builds a little more of a of a rhythm between the two of you and helps them. And then he said he'd send me an email in a month and tell me how it was going awesome. I love that, all right. I would say too that during school times like, you know, I it sounds like he goes to the school nurse, so you probably don't need it there. But I did tell him, I'm like, Look, if you stand up at seven o'clock at night and go, like, you know, to the pretzel drawer to get a pretzel or something like that, if your mom yells across the room at you from the sofa, like you got a Bolus for that, I was like, you can't be mad at her because you asked her to remind you. Yeah, that's the that's the key. No, I know. Don't worry. I got kids anyway. Listen, if this works, Mary, no, I'm gonna sell this. I'm gonna put it in a bottle and sell it. All right, all right. And if it doesn't work, I'm not gonna be super surprised. But if it does work, like, maybe he just needed someone who wasn't you to, like, propose an idea, because then he can accept it. Because I'm nobody to him, right? Like, I'm just a voice, and at the same time, like I tried to give him, he's a very, uh, like, thoughtful kid he talked about. Boy Scouts a little bit and being told to, like, step in and help people. And, you know, it sounds like he's, like, you know, got a real, like, emotional side to him, but comes off kind of like, you know, like, maybe he's got a big personality at the same time. Uh huh. I just think Mary's Not My Kid. But it sounds to me like you should just remember that he's 12. Yeah, you know, yep, that's pretty much this. Of course it is. No I understand, but that's what I got out of this.
Speaker 2 35:29
All right. Well, we appreciate it. We will definitely give it a try and let you know. Thank you.
Scott Benner 35:35
Do you think this was an I don't understand, or a Scott life coach? I think it was definitely a life coach. I do too. I'm gonna make sure I put it into this category. Yeah, I like it. I think I might have a thing going here with this. Yeah.
Speaker 2 35:48
I agree, yeah. All right, it was very helpful
Scott Benner 35:54
around Mary. Are you being serious? No, you should be a life coach as well. Well, I don't have time for that, but I this podcast thing ever goes, I was gonna say tits up. Is that a saying? Everyone knows? I think so. Yeah, if that ever happens, I'll pivot to this. There you go. There you go. I really appreciate you doing this. I appreciate you bringing them on. It was very, very nice of you to set up. I'd like to ask you, like, in a month, would you reach out and tell me how it went? Because I could add in your email to the end of the episode. Yeah, absolutely awesome. What do you teach? I teach fifth grade math. Oh my gosh, God bless you. Yeah. Is that why he told me he doesn't like math?
Speaker 2 36:37
He really doesn't like math, which is very hard for me, I was gonna
Scott Benner 36:40
say, is he just digging at you, or does he not like math? No, he
Speaker 2 36:44
really does not like math. He never has, so it's been that's hard on me. Hey,
Scott Benner 36:49
at least he reads. That's awesome. Yes, he does enjoy your reading. So there's that that's good, by the way, the reading thing might Evan flow a little bit and come back. But my son was a big reader when he was younger, and got back to it in his 20s. Yeah,
Speaker 2 37:02
he's not. He doesn't do it outside of school, but at school he does enjoy it. So I'll take
Scott Benner 37:07
it hopefully eventually it will do you think he'll keep playing baseball. Hopefully
Speaker 2 37:11
we'll see his team's going to Cooperstown this summer. So that's pretty exciting. Yeah,
Scott Benner 37:16
they'll have a great time. They have those little replica fields to play on. That's pretty awesome. Yeah, so yeah. Then next year, the fields get bigger. Oh, great. They go to the 5070, field. So now instead of 46 what is it? 4660 right? So it's 60 feet the first base, 46 feet to home plate, yeah. And then it goes to 5070, so 50 from the pitcher's mound to home, 70 feet to first. But the 5070 fields are usually on full size outfields, so 5070 is the first time you figure out if they can play baseball or not. Oh gosh. Well, we'll see if he's still rolling and doing well there, then you're stuck. He's gonna end up playing high school. So okay, yeah, we'll see. We'll see what happens. Get your sunscreen and your floppy hat ready. Mary, yeah. All right, thank you so much for that. All right, thank you. Have a great day.
Unknown Speaker 38:06
Thanks. Bye.
Scott Benner 38:15
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